emotions :)

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hello friends :)

i was on a call with a friend recently when i realized something-

that emotions can neither be created nor destroyed but they can be converted from one form to another.

when someone is feeling joy and they share their feelings/experiences with us, the joy doesn’t go away but instead, it gets transferred to you.

similarly, when someone shares their anger/frustration with you, they’re transferring that emotion to you.

in any case, you have the ability to decide how you want to transfer/receive the emotions all around you.

the thing with emotion is while it may seem like they control us, we actually control them or have the power to if we choose to do it.

what can’t be done is destroy them.

instead, we can transform them from one form to another.

since emotions are like energies going through a transformation, they need a medium of transfer.

and most times the medium of transfer can either make or mar the emotions.

for example, if you’re feeling super joyful, the way you share that with others can make their day or ruin their day.

similarly, sharing your anger with someone doesn’t mean the other person’s mood gets automatically ruined.

but how you express that anger—yelling versus calmly explaining—determines whether the emotion becomes constructive or destructive.

our emotions have a rush of energy in and out of them.

joy or anger, you’re filled with lots of energy or lack thereof (in case of sadness).

so if the medium through which we transfer our emotions matters as much as the emotions themselves.

how do transform and transfer our emotions from one form to another- from one person to the other without ruining other people’s emotions?

how do we share our joy with others without overwhelming them?

how do we share our sadness with people without making them even more sad?

how do we make our emotions go through the right type of transformation w/o depriving us of our feelings or damaging our relationships?

hold that thought and stay with me.

we said our emotions are energies that need a medium of transfer.

ctrl + enter = patience

to be clear, patience is not easily classified as an emotion.

it’s more like a catalyst—something outside the emotion that accelerates or stabilizes it without becoming part of it.

the same way catalysts are not a part of the substance they’re accelerating or decelerating.

patience does what emotions alone cannot: it gives you the power to process, reflect, and decide before reacting.

patience helps you take charge of your emotions in ways unimaginable.

you would never see a patient angry man. they cancel out each other

if you see two people in an argument, shouting over each other, it’s almost the case that neither of them has the simple courtesy to be patient.

here’s the thing that surprises me the most.

patience doesn’t require two people.

it’s one of the few forces in the world that, by itself, is powerful enough to cause transformation.

you don’t always need two patient people to resolve an argument. you need just side, patient enough.

same way you don’t need many keys to open a door. you need just the right key.

connecting the dots back to emotions…

the best vehicle to transfer your emotions is a patience vacuum- whatever that is for you.

think of patience as the filter that prevents emotions from spilling recklessly into the world.

it doesn’t suppress them but gives you time to decide how to shape and transfer them.

so, the next time you feel overwhelmed by emotion—be it joy, anger, or sadness—pause.

allow patience to step in.

when you’re joyful, patience helps you share it in ways that uplift others.

when you’re angry, patience helps you express your frustration constructively.

when you’re sad, patience lets you sit with your feelings long enough to understand them before passing them on.

so, think of your emotions as energies rushing through you, waiting for direction.

with patience, you become the architect of that energy.

you shape it, mold it, and send it into the world in ways that build connections, not break them.

because while emotions can neither be created nor destroyed, they can always be transformed.

and patience is the key to that transformation.

as we all go back to the world, let’s make it a practice to ask ourselves

what emotions am I holding right now?

how can patience help me shape them into something meaningful?

see you around :)

dulra <3